How to Talk to Your Teenager Without Arguing If you want to talk to your teenager without it turning to argument every time, try this listening method... First, don't start with advice, just ask "how was your day?" and wait, even if they say "fine", you know? Don't rush to fix. Then repeat what they said small, like "so you felt left out at school?" so they feel heard honestly. Finally, ask "do you want advice or you just want me to listen?" Thats the game changer. Most teens just want to be heard, not lectured. I tried this with my cousin's son and he actually opened up after 3 days. Do you struggle talking to teens too or you don find your way? #fyp #viral